Ending Men’s Violence

Oppression expresses itself through legislation as well as individual behavior. Forms of systemic condescension, coercive control, outright hostility, and explicit violence influence and justify individual men’s violence against women and certain other men, against any who challenge the ingrained oppressive structures. Men who have received the ideology of male supremacy through every social structure they encounter have not had a choice about whether or not to receive this message. The default attitude is one of supremacy, and it takes a great deal of energy to recognize the violence in what we have been taught is “normal” and “appropriate”, to expose it, and to take steps to end it. This section deals with the myriad ways that men can take up the task of ending men’s violence against women, and against other men, both individually and socially.

Also see NOMAS Model for Domestic Violence Offender Programs.

Putin’s War on Ukraine: Macro Authoritarian Toxic Masculinity and Domestic Abuse

Like all wars, Putin’s Russian aggression towards Ukraine, is an act of male domination: male supremacy and privilege as part of the patriarchal ideology of ownership and possession. The language of Putin’s war is the language of domestic abuse: male aggrievement and gaslighting through misinformation and victim blaming (you made me do it). Authoritarian Institutional […]

Worldwide Analysis: Over One in Four Women (or 27 percent) Experience Intimate Partner Violence Before the Age of 50

March 24, 2022. McGill University Newsroom Worldwide analysis led by researchers from McGill University and the World Health Organization shows that over one in four women (or 27 percent) experience intimate partner violence before the age of 50. The largest of its kind, the analysis covers 366 studies involving more than 2 million women in […]

Is Domestic Violence a “Choice?” No, not exactly…

By Phyllis B. Frank and Chris S. O’Sullivan, PhD Reprinted with Authors permission from The Voice: The Journal of the Battered Women’s Movement, Fall 2011 There are many terms and explanations that have caught on in domestic violence work as we come to new insights, but we must often go back and rethink how the […]

Opposition to Systemic De-Gendering of Domestic Violence: NOMAS Position Statement

• Violence is a tool of oppression. It is used to enslave, degrade, dehumanize, punish and coerce. In a male supremacist society, men use these tools to subdue women. In a white supremacist society, white people have used them to subdue BIPOC. Everyone learns the “master’s tools” but not everyone has the ability to wield […]

Position Statement Against Anger Management as a Response to Men’s Violence Against Women

NOMAS (National Organization for Men Against Sexism), strongly opposes the use of “Anger Management” or Anger Management Programs as a criminal/civil disposition or means in which to deal with violence against an intimate partner. Over the last thirty-plus years of experience working with men in batterer programs – including the experience of domestic violence advocates […]

Alice Paul Awards For Women Who Have Worked To Confront Men’s Violence Against Women

Committee on Feminist Movement History: National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) reprinted with permission from: Brannon, Robert (2017) “Alice Paul Awards for Women Who Have Worked to Confront Men’s Violence Against Women,”Dignity: Journal on Sexual Exploitation and Violence: Vol. 2: Iss. 1, Article 9.DOI: 10.23860/dignity.2017.02.01.09 http://digitalcommons.uri.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1050&context=dignity NOMAS is a 36-year old national feminist men’s […]

Tara O’Shea-Watson Could Have Been Saved: Domestic Violence and the Court System

By Barry Goldstein. We know how to stop domestic violence crime and especially homicide.  This confidence is based on successful practices in communities like Quincy, San Diego and Nashville that dramatically reduced these horrific crimes.  In Quincy, a county that averaged 5-6 domestic violence (DV) homicides, they enjoyed several years in a row with no […]

The Painful Cost of Disbelieving Women

by Barry Goldstein. A man in one of the batterer classes I teach couldn’t wait to bring up the Duke Lacrosse and Tawana Brawley cases to counter research that women rarely make false reports of rape or abuse.  While many men in the class, like the general public are familiar with the rare cases in […]

Think It’s #NotAllMen? These 4 Facts Prove You’re Just Plain Wrong

by Melissa A. Fabello and Aaminah Khan, Originally published on Everyday Feminism, October 10, 2016 Dear Well-Meaning Men Who Believe Themselves to Be Safe, Thereby Legitimizing the “Not All Men” Argument, Let’s start here, even though this should go without saying: We don’t think that all men are inherently abusive or dangerous. Plenty of men […]

Rape Culture Syllabus

Reprinted with permission by the author Laura Ciolkowski October 15, 2016 — I just start kissing them. Just kiss—I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star they let you do it. You can do anything. Whatever you want. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.—Donald Trump The video was released on Friday, […]