Ending Men’s Violence
Oppression expresses itself through legislation as well as individual behavior. Forms of systemic condescension, coercive control, outright hostility, and explicit violence influence and justify individual men’s violence against women and certain other men, against any who challenge the ingrained oppressive structures. Men who have received the ideology of male supremacy through every social structure they encounter have not had a choice about whether or not to receive this message. The default attitude is one of supremacy, and it takes a great deal of energy to recognize the violence in what we have been taught is “normal” and “appropriate”, to expose it, and to take steps to end it. This section deals with the myriad ways that men can take up the task of ending men’s violence against women, and against other men, both individually and socially.
Also see NOMAS Model for Domestic Violence Offender Programs.
Male Victims Of Domestic Violence: A Substantive And Methodological Research Review
by Michael S. Kimmel (Published as “Gender Symmetry in Domestic Violence: A Substantive and Methodological Research Review) Synopsis written by Rus Ervin Funk, MSW Center for Women and Families, Louisville, KY in Violence Against Women, (2002) This substantial article examines the issues of men who are victimized by domestic violence in heterosexual relationships. Over the […]
Cooptation: Repressive Bureaucracy and its Effects on Activists and Advocates for Social Change
© October 1995, updated September 2013, and December 2014 by Rose Garrity Cooptation: Repressive Bureaucracy and its Effects on Activists and Advocates for Social Change; Why Doing Not-for-Profit Advocacy Work in the United States is so Difficult INTRODUCTION This paper will use domestic violence programs as a useful example, yet the same issues apply to […]
Battered/Formerly Battered Women’s Caucus
STATEMENT-July 14, 2004 In order for the domestic violence movement to facilitate effective and positive social change in our society, it is imperative that Battered and Formerly Battered Women have a clear presence and a loud voice to direct and guide this movement. We have a commitment to provide compassionate,respectful support to the women we […]
Some Major Myths about Domestic Abuse
By Ben Atherton-Zeman, 2003 (www.voicesofmen.org) Myth 1: It’s the victim/survivor’s job to stop the abuse. (Usually stated in a question: “Why don’t they just leave?” or “Why do they stay/go back to their abuser?”) Reality Check 1: Often when victims leave, the abuse increases. More than half of domestic homicides occur when a victim has […]
Calling It Anger Adds to the Danger: Anger Management Policy Statement
Phyllis B. Frank and Gail K. Golden The counseling division of our agency intentionally does not offer what has been referred to as”anger management” programs. With decades of experience to draw upon, we have determined that most people who are thought to need anger management programs already know how to manage their anger, and do […]
Position Statement on the harms of “treatment” models for men charged with dometic violence or abuse
A recent petition featured by change.org is of grave concern to the National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) and advocates who understand the systemic nature of domestic violence and femicide. The petition, addressed to Roger Gooddell, was featured by change.org and gathered more than 13,200 signatures as of December 15, 2012 (http://www.change.org/petitions/nfl-take-real-action-on-domestic-violence). Drafted by […]
Calling it Anger Adds to the Danger
by Phyllis B. Frank and Gail K. Golden Anger Management Policy Statement With decades of experience to draw upon, we have determined that most people who are thought to need anger management programs already know how to manage their anger, and do so, on a daily basis in a wide variety of settings. It is […]
The Importance of Using Accountable Language
by Phyllis B. Frank and Barry Goldstein This article was conceived because of the frequency with which leaders of our movement and presenters at conferences use unaccountable language in our presentations and proposals, even as they deeply care about ending men’s violence against women and have devoted their lives to helping women partnered with abusive […]
“Domestic Violence” as part of the broader issue of “Domestic Abuse”: Position Statement
“Domestic Violence” as part of the broader issue of “Domestic Abuse” The horrific physical violence that so many men continue to inflict on their wives or woman partners is truly astonishing, shocking, and galvanizing: slaps, punches, choking, severe shaking, being thrown against walls or down stairs, arms twisted or broken, burns, stabbings, gunshots, and innumerable […]
Men’s Violence Against Women
by Christopher Kilmartin April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and too often we see domestic violence and rape defined as “women’s issues.” Since men do the vast majority of the damage, I think it’s a men’s issue. I’ll begin with a story, not a very happy one, to set the tone. A little while back, […]