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The Mirror Solution to Child Sexual Abuse

by Barry Goldstein The Pennsylvania Attorney General is now following-up by investigating some of the people who helped Jerry Sandusky continue to molest boys long after he should have been discovered and stopped. A recent news report described a meeting between the young man known at the Sandusky trial as victim #1, his mother and […]

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War on Mothers: Part 1

 By Barry Goldstein To treat people who are fundamentally different or in different circumstances as if they were the same is unfair and should be stopped.  The problem is that this false equivalency is easy to miss and there are often abusive and manipulative people who seek to take advantage of it.  In fairness this […]

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Of Sluts and Bastards: The criminalization of women’s resistance in the court system

by Louise Armstrong: A summary by Janet Dodd, (surrounding an internet discussion on CPS): The book is fabulous.  Historically, the concept of “family privacy”, has functioned, in practice, as protection from public scrutiny for families headed by able-bodied, middle-class (and above), white, hetero-sexual men.  You show very clearly in your book that for the most […]

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Blaming by Naming: Battered Women and the Epidemic of Codependence

Phyllis B. Frank and Gail Kadison Golden Codependency is an increasingly popular term for describing an expanding population of individuals. This concept, originally identified by drug and alcohol counselors, was formulated to describe those individuals who make relationships with substance abusers, enable them, and fail to leave them even after it becomes clear that the […]

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Stopping Murders with the Quincy Solution

Quincy Solution to Haskell Murder By Barry Goldstein Many people were shocked and saddened over a tragic story from Spring, Texas in which domestic abuser Ron Lee Haskell was looking for his ex-wife and went to the home of her sister and brother-in-law demanding to know where she was. When they were unable to tell […]

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Understanding Domestic Violence Dynamics: A Prerequisite For Court Professionals To Work On DV Custody Cases

by Barry Goldstein The frequency with which judges, lawyers, evaluators, child protective caseworkers and other professionals fail to recognize true complaints of domestic violence made by mothers in child custody cases has led to extensive discussions among domestic violence experts about the need for training. In many of these cases the professionals denied valid complaints […]

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Abused for being Female

The Cause of Domestic Violence is Sexism By Barry Goldstein Nicholas Kristof, the New York Times columnist recently wrote a really useful column about sexism that makes it easier to understand and supports many of the points I have made in my next book, The Quincy Solution: Stop Domestic Violence and Save $500 Billion.  His […]

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Changing Abusers’ Behavior: What Works What Doesn’t

By Barry Goldstein Introduction A few years ago I attended a national conference for and about batterer programs. One of my colleagues aptly referred to it as a marketing conference for the batterer program industry. I am sure there were many people at the conference that sincerely sought to reduce domestic violence and believed their […]

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Domestic Violence Cases Require Domestic Violence Experts: Duh!

By Barry Goldstein I can understand why the court system did not immediately seek to learn from and rely on domestic violence experts when domestic violence first became a public issue in the mid to late 1970s. There was no research available and few domestic violence advocates. A popular assumption and misconception was that domestic […]

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What Does Safe Feel Like?

The Real Meaning of Stopping Domestic Violence: Helping Potential Victims Feel Safe By Barry Goldstein   Dara Carlin is one of the best domestic violence advocates and told Elizabeth Liu and me a story when we were working on our book to train attorneys. Dara has a friend who is literally seven feet tall and […]

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