Ending Men’s Violence

Blaming by Naming: Battered Women and the Epidemic of Codependence

Phyllis B. Frank and Gail Kadison Golden Codependency is an increasingly popular term for describing an expanding population of individuals. This concept, originally identified by drug and alcohol counselors, was formulated to describe those individuals who make relationships with substance abusers, enable them, and fail to leave them even after it becomes clear that the relationship is a damaging one (Rockland County Department of

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Lies of the Fathers (Rights Groups)

by Barry Goldstein The United States Department of Justice offered some good news to long suffering protective mothers and their children when it announced grants to courts in Illinois, Delaware, Minnesota and Oregon to develop improved practices to protect battered women and their children. Incredibly, the abusers’ lobby objects to any possible reforms to promote children’s safety out of concern the improved practices might

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Safe Child Act

Improving the Safety of Children involved in Child Custody Cases The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation.  Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in

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Stopping Murders with the Quincy Solution

Quincy Solution to Haskell Murder By Barry Goldstein   Many people were shocked and saddened over a tragic story from Spring, Texas in which domestic abuser Ron Lee Haskell was looking for his ex-wife and went to the home of her sister and brother-in-law demanding to know where she was. When they were unable to tell him, Haskell executed the two parents and their

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Dylan Farrow Speaks Out about Sexual Abuse

by Barry Goldstein The original ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study led by Dr. Vincent Felitti included interviews with over 17,000 middle age and middle class patients of Kaiser Permanente. In a confidential survey 22% of the patients said they had been sexually abused as children. They had no reason or benefit for lying and it is likely some denied sexual abuse out of embarrassment

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USING THE SAUNDERS’ REPORT- PART TWO

Using Saunders’ Report to Protect Children The Saunders’ study establishes that the custody courts are getting an intolerably high percentage of domestic violence custody cases wrong and this will continue as long as the courts rely on evaluators and other professionals who do not have the specific domestic violence training they need and refuse to use the expertise that could be provided by domestic

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USING THE SAUNDERS’ REPORT- PART ONE

Part I: The Game Changing Findings The United States Department of Justice provided a grant to support a major study by Dr. Daniel Saunders of the University of Michigan to determine how well court professionals and particularly evaluators are responding to domestic violence cases. The study comes in the context of frequent and substantial complaints that custody courts are using deeply flawed practices that

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Mansplaining, explained: ‘Just ask an expert. Who is not a lady’

Author Rebecca Solnit admits that even penning a book titled ‘Men Explain Things to Me’ doesn’t stop some men Jessica Valenti theguardian.com, Friday 6 June 2014   Rebecca Solnit is a prolific author (she’s working now on her sixteenth and seventeenth books), historian, activist and a contributing editor to Harper’s. Her most recent book, Men Explain Things to Me, is a collection of Solnit’s

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Will the real hero please stand up!

The Quincy Model to the Quincy Solution By Barry Goldstein   Bill Delahunt served as a Congressman from Massachusetts for 14 years.  I can easily imagine some people who are frustrated with our political system and debate would think of him as just a typical politician.  But Bill Delahunt is a hero who saved many lives and the benefits of his work will increase exponentially

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State law promotes abuse. Which state is it?

Kentucky’s lax laws By Barry Goldstein   Context is critical in understanding domestic violence issues.  Abusers routinely seek to decontextualize their behavior in order to conceal their purpose and impact.  Courts tend to look at each issue and each incident separately and in doing so fail to recognize the patterns and so deny or minimize true domestic violence complaints. Mother Jones recently published a good article

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