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NFL Get’s It Right!

NFL Gets Domestic Violence Right After Further Review By Barry Goldstein Roger Goodell responded to criticism of his lenient punishment of Ray Rice by conducting a new and better investigation.  This led to a new decision, not on the Rice case, but on future practices.  From now on NFL players and other employees who engage in domestic violence assaults will receive a minimum penalty

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Ray Rice Terminated

The NFL Must Focus On Prevention As Well As Punishment By Barry Goldstein   The Stop Abuse Campaign is focused on stopping domestic violence through implementation of the Quincy Solution.  This is why we have offered three articles criticizing the NFL for the lenient, unaccountable response to Ray Rice’s brutal attack on his then girl friend. We also commended Commissioner Goodell for acknowledging his

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Adrian Peterson and Ray Rice: Mice or Men?

By Barry Goldstein   What I Want from Adrian Peterson and Ray Rice The NFL suspended Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson for the rest of the season in response to his plea bargain taking responsibility for the criminal beating he inflicted on his four-year-old son.  Adrian Peterson and the NFL Players Association immediately announced an appeal.  Ray Rice already had a hearing in

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Some Major Myths about Domestic Abuse

By Ben Atherton-Zeman, 2003 (www.voicesofmen.org)   Myth 1: It’s the victim/survivor’s job to stop the abuse. (Usually stated in a question: “Why don’t they just leave?” or “Why do they stay/go back to their abuser?”) Reality Check 1: Often when victims leave, the abuse increases. More than half of domestic homicides occur when a victim has left or is trying to leave. This is

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Media Apologizes for Giving Cosby Free Pass

What will the media do now about ongoing abuse? By Barry Goldstein Cosby biographer sorry for not pursuing rape claims Whitaker’s book has gotten good reviews (USA TODAY’s reviewer gave it four out of four stars, describing it as a “cogent” definition of “Cosby’s artistry”), but others had questioned Whitaker’s choices even before the resurgence of the sexual abuse allegations in recent months. Whitaker himself was

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Calling It Anger Adds to the Danger: Anger Management Policy Statement

Phyllis B. Frank and Gail K. Golden The counseling division of our agency intentionally does not offer what has been referred to as”anger management” programs. With decades of experience to draw upon, we have determined that most people who are thought to need anger management programs already know how to manage their anger, and do so, on a daily basis in a wide variety

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Will Baseball Get Domestic Violence Right?

Will the MLB’s response include accountability and monitoring? By Barry Goldstein In the wake of the NFL’s repeated fumbles with their response to the abuse cases of Ray Rice, Adrian Peterson and too many others, major league baseball is working with the players to do better. Working on this issue when there is no controversial case pending is a particularly good idea. Baseball also

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NOMAS Position on Prostitution and Sex Trafficking

  Moshe Rozdzial and The National Council of NOMAS The National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) has, since its inception, advocated an “abolitionist” position, strongly opposing the life-destroying use of women and children – by men – in sex trafficking and prostitution. NOMAS views prostitution and sex trafficking (they are essentially the same) as a global tool of patriarchal oppression, very often based

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NOMAS Bylaws on Accountability

11. ACCOUNTABILITY 11.1 Definition We understand the term accountability to mean an explicit process of voluntary communication and consultation with representatives of social groups whose interests and concerns are considered most relevant and important. Being “accountable” to a group does not mean taking orders from that group, or handing over the responsibility for making appropriate decisions. It does mean consulting with that group before

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The Intersection of Rape, Custody and Reproductive Coercion

By Barry Goldstein Thirty-one states permit rapists to use family courts to gain access to their victim and obtain custody or visitation of a child conceived from rape. The situation is outrageous, but it doesn’t even describe the full failure of states to protect rape victims and their children. Even in states that provide some protections, a conviction is necessary to shield survivors from

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